#InternationalKissingDay Well let’s start with one of my favorite International Kissers. #RemingtonSteele The look, the motion, the follow through. Sigh.
Ok, you know we were waiting for this one, Mark and Bridgette. Yes nice boys do kiss great. #InternationalKissingDay
Kyle, was always international to me. I love a good enemy to lovers story. Kyle and Maxine brought the heat and to me there is a sweet vulnerability to this one as guards lowered. #InternationalKissingDay
Monica and Chandler #friendstolovers hooked up Internationally. #InternationalKissingDay These two… Their #romance made the show for me.
Wasn’t Whitley studying International Art? One of the best friends to lovers, unrequited love love stories ever. #InternationalKissingDay
Burke and Christina. This was definitely a #frenchkiss. Their romance made the show Grey’s Anatomy for me. #InternationalKissingDay
Rick and Michonne. Ok, I didn’t see this one coming, but yeah. Who knew Walking Dead with Zombies could make toes curl. #ZombieThreatIsInternational #InternationalKissingDay
One for my Irish Peeps. See cleaning a man’s house leads to no good. John Wayne and Maureen O’Hara – The Quiet Man #InternationalKissingDay
North and South with Richard Armitage and Daniella Denby-Ashe. #InternationalKissingDay Swoon.
Rhett and Scarlett.
Outlander. For you Denny.
Victoria and Albert after she proposes. Who can forget the cut-my-shirt scene? #intense #InternationalKissingDay
Still love this almost kiss here:
Mindy and Danny in the rain. Enemies to Friends to Lovers to HEA… for now. It’s complicated, so international. #InternationalKissingDay
Iris West And Barry Allen Superhero love is international. This kiss is no flash in the pan. #InternationalKissingDay #firstkiss
Let’s not forget this one: 22 November 1968, the very first televised interracial kiss. It was between Kirk and Uhura #paranormalkiss #InternationalKissingDay Kirk, I wish you were a little more into it. Uhuru, you are slaying with those nails.
For the record, I’m firmly in the A&E version camp on Pride & Prejudice Movies, but no one can deny the beauty of this Darcy and Lizzy kiss. Oooh Mrs. Darcy. #InternationalKissingDay
Last but not least (for me at least, please add to this thread) Meghan and Harry. #MeghanAndHarry #InternationalKissingDay #romance This is why I write romance and love these kissing scenes.
So, I did a thing to celebrate the Genius of Prince for his 60th Birthday using his song titles.
Ode to Prince
Yes, I Gotta Broken Heart Again, because I Can’t Make U Love Me. I
should Dance On, think about Dinner with Dolores, but this is a
Condition of The Heart.
I wish U heaven, Emancipation, Everyday Winding Roads, a Good Life,
really. You see I Feel For You. Yes, I Can’t Stop This Feeling I Got.
But 4 The Tears In Your Eyes, we should be 2gether. If Eye was the Man
in Ur Life and you were Forever in My Life, we would have Good Love, One
Kiss At The Time as we Play in The Sunshine. Your love is like 3 Chains
O’ Gold, wrapped about me. Hello. Baby, Call My Name, you Most
Beautiful Girl in The World.
It is Undisputed. When You Were Mine, this was the Greatest Romance Ever Sold. But now you Tell Me How U Wanna B Done?
Sweet Baby, Beautiful One, I should have seen this in a Crystal Ball,
but I was Courting Time, waiting for the Dream Factory to Start.
I close my eyes. It’s So Dark. I see the Slave I’ve become. I’m So
Blue. So Dark is my world. My Soul Sanctuary holds too much Purple Rain,
too much Hallucination Rain, too much Pink Cashmere. For The Rest of My
Life, I will remember when we went to Hollywood, how the Housequake
sent me spinning with you Under the Cherry Moon. It was a New Power Day.
I should Release it, these feels, this Reflection–all the how it was
When I Was Your Girlfriend. But the hope that you will be Right Back
Here In My Arms is Insatiable.
No Escape. I’m Face Down in my denial. I Hate U. I truly want to you,
Partyman, you Nasty Girl. But I can’t. I can’t even drive away in my
Little Red Corvette.
So goodbye again. This is my Last Heart. It must stand for truth.
So even now with the Illusion, the Coma Pimp and Circumstance gone, I’m
still Dreaming About You. I think of our Slow Love and Silly Games, and
that time with the The Morning Papers and The Ladder. La La La He He
Hee. We both know La La La Means I Love You.
Damn U, Darling Nikki. I crossed that Graffiti Bridge just thinking of
us. I Wanna Melt With U, Die 4 U. Hello, you Hot Thing. Come On. I know.
I know. Call The Law for it is a crime to forgo The Screams of Passion,
this love that Still Would Stand All Time.
Shhh, I know now I Can’t Make U Love Me. No Wedding Feast for us. It’s
Wasted Kisses. We Gets Up and go our separate ways, no Sensual
Everafter. No Joy in Repetition. No Comeback. So there is no Righting
the Wrong. I will Release It like I toss my Raspberry Beret in the air.
It’s three ingredients, and they are so good. I love to cook, so you’ll often find me in the kitchen. I like elegant great tasting easy to create recipes. So this is one of my personal favorites.
Ingredients:
1 cup of peanut butter, the crunchy type with peanuts
1 egg white (You need to cut the cholesterol somewhere.)
1 cup of sugar (I use raw cane sugar, sounds healthier, but you may eat so many that this doesn’t help)
Directions:
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Line a baking tray with parchment or a silicone mat. They will stick to your tray if you don’t, not good eats, a big mess. No one has time for all that cleaning.
Combine all three ingredients together mixing until you have a smooth dough-like consistency.
Take a scoop of it and form a small ball. Flatten it out onto the tray.
Get fancy and make crisscrosses with a fork’s tines. Place the cookies at least an inch apart.
When your tray is full and your oven is ready, pop these into the oven for about 7 minutes. Be careful not to overbake and adjust your timing based on your oven. They should be a light golden brown. You want these to be chewy.
When you take them from the oven, let them cool on the tray for about 2 minutes, then transfer the cookies to a wire cooling rack. I usually just pick up the parchment and set it on the rack to cool completely.
Your patience will be reward with chewy yummy goodness.
Frederica is quite the hostess and loves to make sure her guest has the right treats. Find out more about her in The Butterfly Bride:
Congratulations. You’re still here. More than half the year is behind you, and that alone is worth celebrating. But it’s time to kick things into gear. Let’s stop surviving…and start thriving.
55% Gone. Now What?
More than 200 days out of 365, 55% of the year is done. Scratched them off the calendar.
Every December, I start thinking about New Year’s resolutions. By the time January 1 rolls around, I’ve got my list together. I tell myself I’m going to be bold, audacious, and dream out loud. This is the year. These are the goals.
Then the middle of July arrives.
And with it comes a stark realization that wakes me out of my dream state. Over 55% of the year is gone. More than 200 days have passed. And if I’m being honest, of all my big, hairy, audacious goals…
I’ve accomplished one.
I’ve survived.
Now don’t get me wrong. Sometimes survival is the victory.
So today, I want to do three things.
First, I want to congratulate you for making it this far.
We’re often too hard on ourselves. Sometimes just getting out of bed in your right mind is an accomplishment. If you’re awake and listening to this podcast, congratulations. You’re a survivor.
But survivors want to become thrivers.
And to thrive, we can’t sit still.
So I’m giving you permission to go back and look at that list you made for 2026. Instead of staring at everything you haven’t done, narrow the list down to one more thing. Pick one goal you want to accomplish in this latter half of the year.
Then go after it.
“But Vanessa, how do I do that?”
First: Reconnect with Your Why
Before diving back into your list, check in with your why. What’s your raison d’être? What is the thing you believe you’re meant to do on this earth?
Now, depending on the season of life you’re in, that answer may change. That’s okay.
But right now, where’s your head? Where’s your heart?
Take a moment to realign. Choose a goal that matches your personal values and your interests.
Some of us still have corporate day jobs. Some of us signed contracts that sounded great at the time. Some of us are out of contract and still wondering, What the hell happened?
I’m just going to chalk this year up to the fact that we’re living in strange times.
Sometimes you’ve got to put your head down and focus, focus, focus on what’s important.
Your why is important.
And you’re going to use that energy to accomplish your one thing before this year is over.
Psychologists Kennon Sheldon and Andrew Elliot, who developed the Self-Concordance Model, found that people pursuing goals aligned with their personal values put forth more sustained effort and are more likely to achieve those goals.
Second: Maybe Your Goal Was Too Big
My mama used to say, “Your eyes are bigger than your stomach.”
Sometimes our egos are bigger than reality.
We only have so many hours in a day. I’ve tested this. It really is twenty-four hours. And somewhere in there you’re going to need to sleep…and yes, use the restroom.
You cannot do everything.
So take that big goal and break it into smaller pieces. Reward yourself every time you get to check something off the list.
For the writers in the house, don’t make the goal, “Finish my novel.”
Make the goal, “Write 300 words today without stopping.”
Will you have to do that more than once?
Absolutely.
But novels aren’t written in giant leaps. They’re written through consistent effort.
For the savers in the house, maybe the goal isn’t having $5,000 saved by the end of the year.
Maybe it’s saving $25 a week.
Maybe it’s skipping one unnecessary Amazon purchase every week.
I’m not here to judge.
I’m just here to say: break the goal into pieces.
Researchers Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer, in The Progress Principle, found that making meaningful progress on small tasks is one of the strongest drivers of motivation, engagement, and satisfaction.
Small wins matter.
Third: Stop Waiting to Feel Like It
Now this one is going to hurt some folks.
Stick to “doing.”
I have a lot of friends who are mood writers. They’ll only write when they’re “feeling it.”
The same thing happens with people who want to cook instead of eating out. Or exercise consistently. They’re waiting for the mood to strike.
Moods are tricky things.
Sure, there are days I write better when I’m angry.
Or after I’ve had a delicious caramel torte.
But I can’t wait for the vibe to be right.
A blank page can’t be edited.
Genius—true genius—happens during the editing process.
Now, for that magical one percent who can spit out a perfectly textured paragraph on the first try…
All I’ve got to say is:
“Jesus wept.” (John 11:35.) That is the shortest paragraph and complete statement in the Bible.
The rest of us need a plan.
Psychologist Peter Gollwitzer’s research on implementation intentions found that people who decide in advance when, where, and how they’re going to act are significantly more likely to accomplish their goals.
In other words, don’t just hope you’ll do it.
Schedule it.
Win the Rest of the Year
Do these three things, and you’ll already be ahead of the game.
Reconnect with your why.
Break the goal into smaller pieces.
Stop waiting for the perfect mood and make a plan.
This last half of the year can still be productive.
You can still accomplish what you desperately want.
And if you don’t know what that desperate thing is…
Go back to step one.
Why?
Why?
Why?
We’ve already made it this far.
We can make it to the end.
Hang in there.
Make the plan.
Start implementing.
And go win the rest of the year.
This week’s book list.
Atomic Habits by James Clear — A practical guide to building better habits through small, consistent changes that compound into remarkable results.
The Progress Principle by Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer — Drawing on years of research, the authors show how making meaningful progress on small daily tasks is one of the strongest drivers of motivation and success.
The ONE Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan — A productivity classic that argues extraordinary results come from identifying and relentlessly focusing on the single most important task.
And if you want to see where my vibe has been for the past two and a half years, check out: A Deal at Dawn – Katherine’s lies have been exposed, but the duke has a plan.
And it’s still Pirate Season. Check out the women pirates in Fire Sword and Sea.
Get these books from The Book Worm Bookstore . They have a few signed copies of Fire Sword and Sea and A Deal at Dawn.
You can also try one of my partners in the fight, bookstores large and small, who are in the trenches with me.
You can find my notes on Substack or on my website, VanessaRiley.com, under the podcast link in the About tab.
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